There is so much hype lately with the love your body movement. I wholeheartedly agree but not in the way that some people intend it. Love your body means something totally different to me now than it did even 2 years ago.

     Over the past decade I managed to go from a girl whose identity was dependent on what society thought about her to a woman, wife, and mom who has found freedom from social stigmas.

     I believe that every single person, including you, deserves to have peace with their body despite it’s size, weight, shape, or any other imperfection. You will never be content with your body unless you learn to love yourself exactly how you are. Right now. Not in 20 pounds. Not with better nutrition. Not when you get your hair done. Granted, those things are all wonderful and good for you. But somewhere we got it backwards. We should not do those things in order to have a body worth loving. We should strive to be in a place where we love our bodies because we believe we are valuable enough to be taken care of. Now it may seem like I am talking a lot about how we feel about our bodies but let me clarify. 

     The problem isn’t with your body, the problem is what you think of it…and what you think of yourself. 

     It took me a while but i finally truly understand what it means to love your body.  My focus on loving my own body is not in the mirror or on the scale. It is on the person I aspire to be. The best me that I can bring to the table. The woman who walks tall and proud with her head held high. The mom who will be chasing around a toddler before I know it. The wife who feels confident and unashamed with intimacy in her marriage. Those are the reasons I choose to take care of myself. I am not perfect. It is a balancing act. I have weeks and seasons where I am just not at my best and you know what? It does not change how I feel about myself.

     I gave birth to our son, our firstborn, just 4 1/2 months ago and I love my body more now than I did before I even got pregnant. I am confident in how I take care of myself and it gets easier to make good choices the more I realize that I am freaking amazing. The more I make good choices the more I want to and the more I love my body. I have 5 things that I always try to do especially if I see myself slipping into a negative rut.

Take a shower.

     – I always feel better when I am clean. 

 Tighten up my nutrition.

     – I tend to feel my best when my body is properly fueled. Opt for an apple with peanut butter over chips and dip. 

Get in my water.

     -I try to drink 1 gallon of water everyday. I feel so much better when I’m hydrated! I never notice how thirsty I am until I drink something. 

Move intentionally.

     -Even if it is just a walk around your neighborhood try to move your body everyday. 30 minutes is great but if you can’t its better than if you did nothing. 

Do nothing. 

     -Just veg. Grab a glass of wine, coffee or whatever floats your boats and give yourself permission to let the responsibilities go for just a little while. Watch a movie, wander target, sit in the quiet. 

     Although there is a lot of fine tuning and missed opportunities there are so many wonderful memories. The high I felt when I went for my first run after our son was born.  The pride I feel when I drive past the turn to Dairy Queen and choose to eat something better for me when I get home. How much energy I have when I’ve been fueling my body with the proper nutrition.

     I am 25 years old and I am happier and healthier than I have ever been. My confidence is strong. I am figuring out what works and what doesn’t for my body and my life. Its not perfect and I don’t expect it to be. Its a journey. a story. A love story if you will. 

Who’s writing your story?

2 thoughts on “My take on the love your body movement

  1. For me, I always hated the idea that “Body Positivity” meant loving how your body looks or being at peace with it despite / in spite of / regardless of x y or z; I’ve always felt that focusing on learning to be happy or at peace with how you look, specifically, at any given point, negates the purpose of truly loving yourself.

    And the purpose of truly loving yourself IMO is to recognize yourself as a worthy human being in mind, body, and soul- one who deserves to be happy and healthy on your own terms, and in the manner best for you. And in regards to body positivity specifically, it’s about loving your body enough to want the best for it, and actually taking care of it- and to me that has little to do with being confident in how you look… Or anything about how you look at all, really.


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